Having practiced counseling for the better part of 20 years I have probably learned more from my numerous clients than I have from my formal education or the many workshops I have attended.  As I have learned, who is a better expert on you than you?   That being said, I have also learned in my years working with couples, who would be a better expert on what a relationship both troubled and untroubled  looks and feels like than the couples themselves?  In this writing, I would like to share with you what I have found to be the primary characteristics of both the troubled and untroubled relationship.